Couples 101: A Guide to Hiring an Escort for a Threesome or Shared Experience
Whether you searched for “escort for couples in Seattle” or “how to hire an escort for a threesome,” or found this anywhere from Reddit to twitter or beyond, welcome! This guide is here to walk you through everything you need to know about booking a companion as a couple — from choosing the right person, to communication, logistics, and what to expect.
I’m here to help 😊 I’m guessing you already know since you’re on my website, but if you came here directly from a google search- Hi, I’m Elle! I’m a blonde escort in Seattle in love with romantic sleepovers, tasty dinner dates, travel for two and have been seeing couples since 2018!
Much like I do in the rest of my ‘Client 101’ series (See Duos 101/FMTY 101/Gifting 101/Conventions Dates 101)
I’m going to break down hiring a companion for you and your partner step-by-step here:
Questions to ask to figure out if you’re ready
How to find the perfect companion for you and your partner
How to prepare
What to expect at the booking
Questions to Ask Before Booking an Escort for a Threesome
(It’s not just about hiring an escort as swingers, though that’s also a great idea)
Before you get to the booking stage, it's important to make sure you're both on the same page. Ask yourselves:
Are we both genuinely excited about this idea, or is one of us hesitant?
Are we doing this to enhance our connection, or trying to fix something deeper?
What are we each hoping to get out of the experience? (Shared play? One partner exploring? Voyeurism?)
How do we want to feel during and after the experience?
This article on why couples choose escorts instead of apps or bars can help frame some of these questions.
Being intentional from the start leads to a more fulfilling and stress-free experience.
How to Find the Right Escort for You as a Couple
If you don’t already have someone in mind, here’s how to find a great match:
Look for providers who list that they see couples or offer threesome-friendly experiences (if you’re looking on ad sites, you can often filter by that)
If the experience will involve female-female intimacy, be sure the companion identifies as bisexual or sees women
Read her site thoroughly to see if she lists any extra fees or time minimums for couple sessions
Make sure both partners complete screening — not just one of you!
Check if she has any Duo+ or FMTY experience (you can explore my Duos+ 101 or FMTY 101 posts for ideas!)
When reaching out, include a clear, respectful introduction from both of you, and let her know what you're hoping to explore.
How to Prepare for the Date (Communication is Key!)
Before your booking:
Talk with your partner about boundaries, reassurance needs, and aftercare plans
Share your goals in your initial email using SFW (safe-for-work) language
Make sure the hotel has a king bed (trust me on this one 😉)
Plan how you’ll decompress afterward: a meal, cuddles, and space to process are all helpful
Discussing things beforehand doesn’t ruin the spark — it builds trust, clarity, and intimacy.
What to Expect During the Booking:
The best threesome bookings have space to ease into connection. Don’t expect to jump straight into the bedroom:
You’ll likely start with conversation, perhaps drinks or a shared dinner (a great way to break the ice!)
Boundaries and desires will be discussed again in person to make sure everyone feels safe and excited
Some clients bring snacks like chocolate-dipped fruit or music playlists to make things feel more sensual and relaxed
Games like strip poker or truth-or-dare can help ease tension or nerves
Afterward, it’s all about a soft landing: cuddles, kind words, and checking in with each other.
Want to read about a favorite couples of mine’s experience?
One Couple’s Experience Hiring Escorts: A Q&A with an ATF Couple of mine
A Few More Tips for Booking an Escort for a Threesome:
Don’t surprise your partner with a third person. Always involve them in the decision.
Know that this is your fantasy and experience, not a performance
Choose a provider who makes both partners feel comfortable and respected
Couple bookings can be some of the most emotionally connected and joy-filled experiences you’ll ever have — especially when everyone involved feels seen, cared for, and desired.